I was indeed the lucky third. :) And this really is spot on how we were raised, though things definitely changed with time as we all grew older... really enlightening little bit of info. It also seems like, by bringing this to a conscious level, you really don't need to keep raising kids the same way, but realize right from the start that it'll be in a set pattern, and as such avoid that pattern for: whatever's really best for those kids. Didn't expect this to be so eye-opening! Really. Nice work.
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