Bamboo Shoots!
Age 35, Male
Poet/Designer/Etc
ACCOMPLISHED
Sweden
Joined on 1/17/04
@Cyberdevil Yes, tell them how important a complex task is.
I don't get the final 2 clauses of your sentence: realized that with family early on, it's hard to build trust without question, usually seems more so a mutual exchange and balance that easily teeters either way.
Well just that people see the value in different things differently, if you for example ask for a favor you consider important, and they don't have the same insight into as to why it's important to you, it may not be enough just to explain how important it is... for example I had a writing streak on almost a hundred days going on a particular site once, and asked my sister if she could fill in for me while I was away a couple of days - I wrote extra beforehand and made it easy for her to do so, and she forgot all about it. To her, it just wasn't as important a task. To me... I realized I just could not trust anyone with anything essential if they didn't consider it essential as well, and unfortunately we all see things all too differently... basically TLDR: I realized I could only count on certain people for certain things. The more you know people, the more you know with exactly what you can trust them; what's in line with their own values and personality.
To put it differently, somebody that might take a bullet for you, might still not to be able to keep a secret to save their life.
Best learn exactly what you can trust someone with too if you do intend to confide in them entirely.
Happy new year, my friend!
Happy New Year to the both of you! May it be a fruitful and fun one!
A bit late but happy 2024!
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Thank you man! To you as well!
@Cyberdevil tyty
Are you happy with life?
Right now... it ain't so bad. I feel I'm headed the right way at least. As long as you're happy maybe 35% of the time I think you're doing alright, or maybe that was a different percentage, read something about the ideal rule, and how it's just not possible to be constantly happy, as long as you're aware of this, then it's easier to appreciate the good times when they come, and fight through them other times...
How about you? How's the balance between life and happiness for you?
ever seen Waves (2019) ?
Not that one either! Someday I may watch.
@Cyberdevil It’s okay.
Hope that's an okay okay :)
there's a 1% chance I'll be in Sweden next March
2025? If so we gotta meet up!
Stockholm btw?
Plane flight to Oslo. Then train from Oslo to Gothenburg. But might go to Stockholm to!
Nice! Still haven't been to Gothenburg myself, could take the train there if you don't make Stockholm. But of course you're welcome here!
1% chance though huh, hope that percentage jumps up a bit.
Gothenburg is near the top of my bucket list of places I want to visit
Hey hey! If/when you ever go vacationing there or elsewhere in Sweden lemme know! I thought I'd eventually have to take a trip over the pond to meet some NG peeps for real, but if y'all just fly here instead... that'd be cool.
I just put a book about practical life-management skills on hold in my school library's catalog. I'ma pick it up today.
Good stuff! Hope it's useful
Hey, it's been a long time. How are you?
Hey hey, I'm doing good man! Just busier than I'd like to be. How 'bout you?
@ExtraLegalStar25 let me borrow the copy after
Be pretty cool if we had books where there really was just one copy going around, rare knowledge, it's in such surplus now you don't really appreciate all the good that's out there...
@S3C it's not a comprehensive one. It's just the basics.
Always good to learn from the group up!
ever made a pizza with a dill-dough based flour?
Hmm don't think so! Have you? New taste sensation?
Yes, I love dill doughs. I love putting dill doughs in my mouth.
The pizza scenario caught me off guard man, seemed like a legit foodie scenario!!! XD
Whomever created the dill-flavored stress putty with that same name's a genius too...
top of the morning
Top of the morning to you too S3C!
Up at such times due to a fire alarm running out of battery if you're wondering, might as well make the most of this momentum...
shall we induct Netherlands into the Nordic council?
Hmmm if they were anywhere near the Northernlands then maybe...
I hadn't actually heard of the Nordic council before this TBH. Interesting. Seems to precede EU, and Shengen, an ancient order of the old days, wonder how much influence they still have...
but Netherlands is closer to the Northernlands than Iceland...
Though the UK, Germany, Poland, Lithuania, Latvia, Estonia and Russia are even closer...
ExtraLegalStar25
Here are 2 ways I can determine if I should trust someone:
-Tell them to hold on to a pencil and return it in a few days. If they don't do so and can't explain why, then I won't trust them. The pencil is there because of how replaceable it is. Plus, what's not important to them could be important to other people.
-Lie to them about a sensitive secret. For example, say that you're crushing on someone that you met from an culinary organization camp. If they keep the secret after a certain amount of time, it becomes easier to trust them.
Cyberdevil
Good methods. I suppose you could replace the pencil with just about anything too if you do this often. It's a simple thing too. If you ask for complex favors they might need to know how important they are to you to really follow though, but a pencil... good basis.
Unfortunately it's a bit difficult to get others to invest themselves in something that requires an effort that they don't see the benefit of, realized that with family early on, it's hard to build trust without question, usually seems more so a mutual exchange and balance that easily teeters either way.